How To Deal With Perpetual Singlehood

Perpetual singlehood is not often talked about and so it can make one feel rather isolated at times, but the truth is that there are many people in the same boat. It might be hard to see that when those around you are coupled, but it's important that you understand that some people find love sooner than others and it doesn't make you any less worthy.

1. Understand that solitude plays a fundamental role in our development

I personally believe that emotional independence is a survival skill because life is full of twists and turns and we have to be prepared to deal with hardships. Learning to live life on your own gives you time in silence to reflect on where you've been and where you want to go. You also start to learn new things about yourself that you may not have realized before. Self-reflection will not only help you put things into perspective, it will empower you to make decisions that are more aligned with who you really are.

2. Understand that you are allowed to want partnership

While solitude plays an important role in our personal growth, as social creatures, it's only natural that you would crave connection. It's okay to be vulnerable and admitting to wanting partnership instead of putting up a front like it doesn't bother you. However, you should not allow that to take over your life to the point that you feel stuck. Life goes on with or without a partner and the more you make productive use of your time, the less you will stress about what you don't have in the moment.

3. Understand that opportunities are all around you

I know that you are likely feeling defeated from the string of rejection that you have encountered, but that doesn't mean that there are fewer opportunities available to you. Each of our lives unfolds differently and we all experience different forms of setbacks, so the key is to keep your mind on where you want to be, not in the past. Let your actions be inspired by the things that you have yet to experience and choose to make the most of every moment. Nothing good in life ever comes easy, in fact, most successful people failed several times before they succeeded. This doesn't mean that you are a "failure" it just means that you've had some setbacks. Don't allow trivial things like age or the pressure of family to get you down. Own your journey with confidence.

4. Understand that the modern dating world is in many ways working against you

For those who are seeking stable and long-term commitments, our current dating landscape can be a nightmare to navigate thanks to casual relationships and hookup culture. I encourage you to take some of the pressure off yourself by recognizing that many people are suffering as a result of our culture. I suggest that you read this article to help give you further perspective.

5. Take things one day at a time

Learn to take breaks from dating when you're starting to feel overwhelmed. It's important to recharge in order to regain your confidence.

6. Ask for help 

If you feel like you need guidance navigating the murky waters of perpetual singlehood, you are in luck because I can help! As a Certified Stress & Resilience Coach who has lived through perpetual singlehood and come out stronger than ever, I can assure you that it is possible to be single and happy.

Cultivating resilience is a skill that will prepare you to overcome inevitable obstacles. The biggest roadblock for most single women is the fear of rejection and knowing how to work through that will empower you to be the CEO of your love life! If you'd like to learn more about my new Stress & Resilience Course for Single Women, click here.