How To Find Your Inner-Self
Our lack of inward reflection as a collective is the cause of the pain we endure in life. Without an understanding of why we believe, feel and act the way we do, it's impossible for us to evolve peacefully.
For more context, Yogapedia describes the inner-self as, "an individual’s personal, internal identity - one that is distinct from identities defined by external, social forces and relationships."
Have you ever wondered why friendships, relationships and societal interactions can be so frustrating at times? The answer is rather simple, but the solution requires work on all of our parts. We lack emotional intelligence– the capacity to be aware of, control, and express our emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.
We all experience rejection at points in our life, but the true test is how we overcome it. Some people accumulate the anger inside and unleash it on others, while some process the experiences and become resentful. Instead, we have to learn from it to become better people by tapping into our inner selves. Our actions impact the lives of those around us, whether we care to admit it or not. It also impacts our own well being. Self-sabotage is a result of a lack of self-awareness.
The journey of self-discovery is a very personal experience, and while I can give you some tips, you have to put in the effort to try to understand. You have to put in the effort to seek out information that will help expand your knowledge.
THE QUEST TO INNER KNOWING REQUIRES ONE BOLD ACTION:
BEING ALONE WITH YOUR THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS TO ALLOW YOURSELF TO SORT THROUGH THE PAST.
Sounds scary, but it's not. Getting to the heart of why you feel the way you do in this moment, and what triggers those feelings is a necessary part of growth. Especially, if you are stressed out or just not happy with the way your life is unfolding. What you'll notice is that your brain will start to reflect on past friendships, relationships, situations and upbringing. Our families especially play a big role in shaping our emotional intelligence and we often learn old habits, beliefs and dysfunction from those closest to us. Which is why it's so important to think for yourself, so that you don't repeat and pass down behaviours that are in-conducive to your well being and others.
Most people go through life adhering to other people's expectations, without stopping to ask if it's right for them. The ability to think for yourself will dramatically change you because you'll shed old beliefs and replace them with new ones that better align with who you truly are.
Once you get into the mode of trusting yourself, you'll have a hunger to learn and your quench to read and discover the mysteries of life will be heightened, because at that point you become committed to self-discovery. It's largely why so many people are utilizing meditation to tap into themselves, because it allows the mind to be calm and quiet and it puts you into a mode of stillness. But, if that's not your thing, I suggest grabbing a notepad and writing your thoughts out or just sit alone with a cup of tea and reflect.
In order to have a better understanding of the world around you, you first have to understand the world inside of you. It's your job to dig deep and ask the tough questions. Once you get into the habit of calling yourself out on your own shit, you evolve into becoming a conscious person.
Take the time to embrace the comfort of your own presence because there is an abundance of truth inside of you that's waiting to be discovered. Don't just take my word for it, go test it out for yourself!
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